Some spas post their rules. Many don’t. These are the habits I follow, and they hold up almost anywhere. Most of it is plain courtesy, with the volume turned up a little because nobody is wearing much.
1. Know where it’s optional
Rules change from spa to spa and from room to room. Coed areas usually stay covered. If you’re not sure, ask the front desk, and stay covered until you know.
2. Shower before you get in
Rinse off before the hot tub, the steam room or the sauna. Everyone shares the same water and the same air. It’s basic courtesy.
3. Sit on your towel
Put a towel between you and the bench in the sauna and steam room, and on loungers. Keep towels out of the pools and the hot tub.
4. Eyes up
Don’t stare, don’t check anybody out, and don’t comment on bodies, yours or anyone else’s. Look at the ceiling, close your eyes, or talk to the person you came with.
5. Keep it strictly non-sexual
Clothing optional doesn’t make anything else optional. Flirting, touching or anything suggestive has no place here, and a spa can ask you to leave for it. If someone makes you uncomfortable, tell the staff.
6. No phones, no cameras
Leave the phone in the locker. Anything that can record is off limits, and that matters most where people aren’t dressed. More on why.
7. Keep your voice down and share the space
Some people want silence. Ask before you start a conversation, and keep it low when you do. Don’t spread out on the loungers, save seats, or park yourself in the best spot all day. More on sharing the space.
8. Let the covered guy be covered
Somebody in a towel or trunks isn’t doing it wrong. Never comment, never pressure. Everyone’s comfort level is theirs to set, and that includes yours.
That’s the whole list. None of it is hard, and it’s what makes the place feel safe enough for everyone to relax.
Written from lots of real spa days, not professional training. Spas differ, so check with yours. General information, not medical advice.